I have learned it hard way, never say no to opportunities coming your way, just because you fear.
Just go and give your best. Don’t think of results.
I was always been very confident from my childhood, I never got this fear of failing and a second thought about it. I tried almost all the things that came in my way. In school days, I did speak at assembly without preparation that was my first time when I dared to jump in pool without knowing how to swim. As I have to coverup one of my classmate, I did great my teacher said and that rosy words boosted my confidence. I used to be in my choir group — when I really couldn’t sing well I knew that I wanted to at least try once. In our society functions every year, I never missed to take part in various competitions, I took part in fancy dress, acting etc. Childhood was fun.
I also went classical dance for 7 years, growing up my confidence went down. When I stepped out of my house and started living in hostel, that was a major change in my life. I felt small, the confidence crashed. Because I started comparing my worth.
I was very bad at drawing in my college, I started wondering is it really for me. Starting from childhood everybody in my family said, you will be an artist. But when I entered college, it was difficult for me to understand what is happening around me, now that was reality not a very glooming world as my parents told me.
I approached many classmates to help me, many tried helping me but many made fun of me. I was demotivated. My professor never approved my work, she just gave me a redo on every assignment as I couldn’t do well.
For one of my Typography assignment — I did redo for 15 times. In my first year, almost all assignments were at least done 3 times by me.
I was the only one in my hostel who would sit day-night redoing my assignments. Other classmates would do it one night before and would have fun. By looking at their work I would get dejected that I am not worth being here — I started comparing myself.
We get stuck in may steps while climbing, Never stop practicing but in a right way.
I have had goals from my childhood, I was not intelligent or smart but I was hardworking and consistent. I valued my time. I never got distracted by my personal life. I had many bad phases in my personal life but I never lead that to affect my career. That’s the thing you should know about the balance. I don’t want to say focus on only career but find that middle path. I see people these days just keep saying and building castles in the air. The enthusiasm gets high and when it comes to putting it into practice, they procrastinate or just get distracted. when you think, plan and execute and repeat the circle till you are satisfied.
Never shy to seek help.
From my classical dance to my first job, I have always asked many questions to people. I failed at simple things and asked for help. If you have the right attitude no one is going to deny helping you. I entered into UX, without even thinking if I would be able to do it or not. I just went with the flow, I failed multiple times from my training till yesterday. But I learned.
In my training, on my first day, I was asked a question by a senior colleague, “Can you tell me what is E-commerce website, according to you” — and I directly said no I don’t know. Can you help me understand what is it? Trainee’s around me laughed. It hurt me I felt like an idiot, I doubted myself that whole night and stood up the next morning with a smile in my training room. I ignored it as I knew I am learning. And see today, I am working on a good project in my company with the same people and with everyone’s help and guidance. Still going with ups and downs, but satisfied.
Discipline is important.
Everybody procrastinates, so do I. I also don’t feel like working on some days, I fear failure sometimes, anxiety is on top of head. But keeping a To-do list helps me. I plan my day before sleeping every night for the next day. This helps me save time on thinking on priority. But things always don’t work as planned so I try to achieve how much ever I can. But remember not to burn out in the process. I have experienced this burnout and my anxiety levels were busting and at same time affecting my health.
If I feel low, I start telling myself why I start this in the first place. One more thing which has helped me was, Sticky notes in front of my desk, so I don’t forget my goals and they help me to be motivated when I try to skip my task. Motivation is short term but inspiration is long term. Try to find that.
Once one of my mentor in college told me “ Write down a cheque with an ABC amount you want to earn in the next 5/10 years and post it on your display board where you can see it” I also tried this all ways suggested by people to stay focused on my goal. Maybe I was being very tough on myself. I gave myself space and did what I could. Take it slow but at least try once, someday in future you won’t regret that you didn’t try. you may fail many times and someday you will also enjoy the real essence of success.
These all phases will appear in everybody’s life. If you start comparing yourself with someone, you will end up being dejected. I always believed in hard work and consistency and seeking help from right people.
I hope you all enjoyed reading. Cheers !!
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